“Can’t we start over again?”

Have you experienced saying these words to someone you love? It’s hard to say goodbye to the one we love. So we do all we can to save our relationships when it’s on the verge of breaking up. It doesn’t hurt so much to the one leaving, but to the one left behind, it’s painful. That’s why we do whatever we can to hold on, to work things out, to make everything right again.

In relationships, there will always be problems and hardships that couples have to experience in order to grow and test their love for each other. And when these problems occur, there’s always the risk of the relationship not being able to pull through, that’s why it results in a breakup. But there are relationships that are resilient and are able to recover from the blow, and as a result, the couple’s love for each other becomes stronger than ever. This takes a lot of effort and commitment on both parties to decide to work things out.

Petty fights and little misunderstandings are part of a normal relationship. But when big problems occur, like cheating, lying big time, family issues, etc., these are capable of ruining the relationship altogether. And after some time, taking into consideration all the hurt and pain that the problem caused, the couple can either decide to start over again or breakup for good.

In the case of a man wanting to leave because he’s had enough or no longer wants to be in the relationship, and the woman is still very much in love and refuses to accept the man’s decision, then she can probably ask for another chance, or ask if they can start all over again. But she has to be ready for the answer. This can work in some cases, but when the mind’s made up and the relationship is beyond repair, there’s no turning back.

Relationships are complicated in the sense that sometimes, it’s not always black and white. Feelings change, situations change, and most importantly, people change. Problems are just precursors, but ultimately, we are the ones who decide. It’s okay to ask for another chance, but after all is said and done, we have to respect our partner’s decision. Because we can’t force someone to feel a certain feeling just because we want them to. We have to be ready to hear the truth and accept it, no matter how difficult. Keep this in mind, the next time you find yourself asking, “Can’t We Start Over Again?”

Love is?

Do you believe that true love never dies?What about those people who wake up one day just to realize that they’re no longer in love with the one they’re with. Have you ever experienced this? You found someone, you fell head over heels in love, and then one day, you’ll just realize the feeling isn’t there anymore. What’s up with that?

Is love really fleeting? Is it an emotion that is there for some time and then just disappears at a certain time? Or maybe it isn’t love at all to begin with? Why are there so many broken hearts and so many love lost… if it’s true love, does it really have to end?

In all honesty, I don’t have the answers to any of these questions. I guess no one can really know the answer for sure. After all, we’re all just human beings in search of true love, in search of that one person who will love us and grow old with us… that one person that God intends to be our perfect match. But most people never find their perfect match in their lifetime. It’s all just a string of painful broken hearts consisting of a bucketful of tears and an endless cycle of loving and getting hurt.

Just like in Natalie Cole’s song “Someone That I Used To Love“, the lyrics goes like this, “Wish it was enough for you, all the love I have to give… I did my best to keep you satisfied. I guess you’ll never know how much I tried, I really tried. Once I had so much to give, but you just refused my love. Though you’re someone in this world that I’ll always choose to love. From now on, you’re only someone that I used to love.”

When we love, it always entails taking some kind of risk. We risk getting hurt, we risk our happiness, our hearts, emotions… and then when it doesn’t work out, we grieve over it and then get up and try again. But do we ever really lose that feeling we once had for someone that we loved so much? Or is it simply a change of heart? Maybe we lose the attraction, that’s why we think that the love is no longer there anymore. But regardless of the reason, there’s always the risk of losing the powerful feelings that we once felt for a person after some time. And when that happens, we deal with it the best way we know how, and then move on. Some people go away, some people stay.

My belief is that, when you really truly loved a person (and I’m not talking about just being attracted to the person), even though your relationship didn’t work out, a part of you will always love that person, no matter what. Maybe the intensity will dissipate overtime, but nevertheless, it’s still there. Maybe buried deep inside, but still there. Maybe it transferred or switched to some other level, but the love is still there. Because true love never really dies.